Β ο»ΏWhat Not To Say (or do) To A Pregnant Woman

So.

I’ve been wanting to write something like this for awhile but always forget to when it’s time to actually sit and write. Anyway, I had a conversation with a friend awhile ago. About how people say things without really thinking about how what they’re saying might offend someone. And by someone I mean us. 

And maybe I’m just hormonal, but lately there’s been a couple of comments I’ve been getting from people that just makes me want to throw a fit. Much like how my almost-2-year-old throws one when she doesn’t get her way. 

How bad can these comments really be, you ask? 

Try this one on for size.

“Hopefully this one looks more like you.”

 πŸ˜³ Now WTF does that mean? Either you’re implying my firstborn is not cute or you’re saying my husband isn’t cute or worthy enough for our child to look like him. You may not mean for it come off that way but come on. Think about it. What’s so wrong with my first child not looking like me anyway? How should she look? My husband is Caucasian. I’m Filipino. A dark complected one at that. Apparently my genes weren’t strong enough to shine through but yes people, she is flesh and blood. And she did come out of me. 

 And then I got this one a lot after we announced my pregnancy.

“Was it planned?”

Hell yes this one was planned! And even if she wasn’t planned, what makes you think you have the right to know? And does it really matter anyway? Planned or not, this baby is very much wanted. 

“Whoa you got big!” 

Gee thanks. I know you refer to the belly growing and all, but try to be a bit more sensitive about it. Yes I’m growing a miracle. Yes I know I’m pregnant. But even though this is my 2nd time going through this, doesn’t make it easier seeing my body go through these changes.

“Are you sure you’re not having twins?” 

Again. Just refrain from asking any question that talks about the size of the belly. I’m pregnant and so very much hormonal. Ask my husband. He thinks I’m crazy. Even the “how are you feeling?” question can sometimes be off limits. Just don’t ever ask this question.

And then when I tell people I’m having another girl, I get this one…

“Are you sad it’s not a boy?” 

No we are not sad and no we are not going to try until we get a boy. 2 kids are all we want. Anything more means we will be outnumbered. And besides, if we keep “trying” and just keep getting girls… when do you suggest we stop trying? 

“Can I touch your belly?”

Ok, I know you asked for permission. But come on, really? If you are not family or close friend, the answer is no. I just don’t like people touching me in general. Hugs are welcomed. Touching the belly? Not a good idea if you want to keep your hand. I actually responded to someone once “well can I touch yours?” Yeah… the look on that person’s face was classic. She was shocked. I went on to say “yeah, I didn’t think so.”

And just so you know, not asking is way worse than asking. I’ve had people say to me as they’re touching the belly “you look so pregnant!” and then they wonder why I turn into a bitch soon afterwards. Just. Don’t. Do. It.

Bottom line? Just don’t piss the prego lady off. Quite honestly, anything can set us off really. The hormones raging through us the entire 9 months of this process is no joke. Don’t even ask me if you could have my bagel. You’ll be on my shit list for the rest of this pregnancy. 😜 

We just ask that you be a little bit more sensitive with us. 

Because we are very emotional creatures as is… 

We over analyze everything that you say to us. 

We are just a hot mess. 

Ok?

That is all.

😬

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Baby P #2 Bump Watch: 21 Weeks Preggers

This one was a very trying week for this mama. Which explains why my last post was super late. Just as I entered into the 21st week, my toddler came down with a cold. A really bad one. Usually Ella handles her colds and fevers like a champ. And in the beginning of it, she was still her happy energetic self. But Wednesday night, she kept me up because she just could not get comfortable enough to sleep well through the night. I can’t even remember how much sleep we got. It was just not a good. Same thing again Thursday night. To top it off, hubby was leaving early Friday morning to Sacramento for the weekend because of work. So I was left to care for a sick child (doctor visits and all) all by myself. Turns out Ella had an ear infection. Yay me. Single parenting was not easy. But we survived, thank God. And Ella is feeling so much better now.

Alright… so on with my weekly update! I apologize for the homely look in this week’s pic. Lack of sleep (total flashbacks of Ella’s newborn days!!!) makes for unflattering photos. I really don’t always look like a hot mess.

21 Weeks


What is up with Baby P #2 this week?

  • Baby P is 10 1/2 inches long and weighs 11 to 12.5 ounces – she’s about the size of a large carrot πŸ₯•!!!
  • She’s got a great deal of room in my womb which leaves plenty of space for her to twist, turn, and do somersaults.
  • Her tastebuds are also developing. Because she’s starting to swallow amniotic fluid, there’s a good chance that she is able to taste all the flavors I’ve been consuming!
  • Her arms and legs are finally in proportion, neurons are connected between the brain and muscles giving baby more control over limb movements – which explains all the kicking, stretching, and bodysurfing she’s been doin’.

 

What’s been happening with ME this week?

Weight Gained: I’ll know for sure in a couple of weeks when I go to my next prenatal appointment with my OB/GYN. I’m hoping for a healthy weight gain… but with Ella being sick over the weekend, my eating habits haven’t been the greatest. Take out food was my bff and not being able to go grocery shopping prior to the beginning of the work week made for more eating out type of lunches for me. So we’ll see.

Workouts: I know you probably think I should just permanently omit this question from my updates, but I’ll have you know that I’ve been incorporating some air squats in the evenings before bed time. 100 squats to be exact. 20 reps, 5 times. Yup. No joke.

Symptoms: 

  • Some dry, itchy skin… mostly on my back (especially around the bra line). Lotion and cocoa butter has been a must
  • Still get winded when climbing stairs
  • Minor swelling after a long day of work
  • Bathroom breaks every 30 minutes I swear
  • Achy legs (hamstrings) which is why I started doing squats. It helps alleviate the pain since it’s hard for me to do some really good stretches now

Food Aversions: none I can think of

Food Cravings: Anything sweet. I had a training to go to this week and I totally raided all the chocolate they left for us on the table to snack on. No shame here!

Sleep: Still pretty good!!!

Any Baby/Pregnancy-Related Purchases? None yet. But soon!!!

Stretch Marks: No… I hope it stays that way!!!

Miss Anything?: Being back in the gym. When I hear people talk about going to the gym, I start feeling a bit envious. I know I could totally go to the gym, too… but with my busy schedule, I really don’t have the energy to pull it off at the moment. I’m already planning on getting back into a gym once I’m given the ok by doc after I’ve popped this baby out.

Belly Button In or Out? Neither in or out. Except for the dark mark on my belly, it’s as if I don’t even have one.

Wedding Rings On or Off? Still on! Hoping these babies won’t have to come off.

Happy or Moody Most Of The Time? I was a bit emotional for sure, especially with Ella being sick. I had a small anxiety attack when my hubby left for his trip, wondering if I would be able to handle caring for our baby all by myself. This wasn’t the first time he was going out of town or the first time Ella was sick… but this was definitely the first time it happened at the same time and I was doing it all alone.

Any Movement? Heck yes. This one’s a super active one for sure.

Fun and/or Interesting Things From The Week: ok so I have to apologize but for some odd reason, this question was not included in all my previous posts. I’m sure there are a lot of other questions I might have forgotten but I’ll make sure to include this one in all future posts.

With that said….was there anything fun or interesting that happened during this week? Hmmm…. none that I can think of. Maybe that’s why I left it out? πŸ˜‚ 

Anyway if you haven’t already noticed, I kinda lead a boring life. I’m not complaining though! It’s just not very eventful for me just yet. This summer, once the hubby is done with school, I’m sure there will be a few stories to tell here and there. So look forward to some cool stories!

Looking Forward To? Having a relaxing Memorial Day weekend and hopefully finally booking a date for our maternity shoot! I’m hoping for a July date. I’ll keep you posted!

Baby P #2 Bump Watch: 20 Weeks Preggers

And we are halfway through this pregnancy!!! It’s weird because it feels like it flew by but at the same time, it feels like time is just chugging along. But whatever, it’s an awesome feeling to know we’re halfway there! 

So I had my 20 week ultrasound this week! You know, the one where they take an extensive look at Baby P to see how she’s developing. And the tech reconfirmed that Baby P is still, in fact, a girl 😬.


20 Weeks


What is up with Baby P #2 this week?

  • Baby P is the size of a banana 🍌!!! She weighs about 10.2 ounces and measuring about 6.5 inches from crown to rump 
  • She’s swallowing more – good practice for digestion!!!
  • And her body is producing meconium – the yucky black sticky substance byproduct of digestion. This will accumulate in her bowels until her first poop once outside of the womb! 


What’s been happening with ME this week?
Weight Gained: I’d like to say I’m gaining my slow and steady weight… but I really have no clue. Because my 20 week doc appointment was only for the ultrasound, I did not have to weigh in or have my vitals taken.

Workouts: not a damn one lol

Symptoms: 

  • Mom/pregnancy brain
  • Migraine (usually on Mondays when I’m back at work)
  • Super hungry 
  • Super exhausted
  • A little swelling 
  • Shortage of breath – yup, can’t walk up a short flight of stairs without huffing and puffing

Food Aversions: none that I can remember. 

Food Cravings: Just one thing. Soda. And I caved in. 😩

Sleep: still pretty good. I get up to go pee about 2x in my 6-7 hour slumber. Sometimes 3x. But I’m able to go right back to sleep. 

Any Baby/Pregnancy-Related Purchases?Window shopping online for more maternity clothes. Summer is right around the corner… I need more dresses! 

Stretch Marks: just the little old ones.

Miss Anything?: don’t even get me started on this one. I miss everything about not being pregnant… so I’m definitely looking forward to postpartum me. 

Belly Button In or Out? Still in. But not by much. 

Wedding Rings On or Off? They’re still on!

Happy or Moody Most Of The Time? Nobody got on my nerves this week so I say Happy 😊!!!

Any Movement? Hellz yeah. I think this one will be just like her big sister. And if that is so, I will be in BIG trouble. I’m gonna need the energy.

Looking Forward To? My next prenatal appointment. Because I’m super curious to know exactly how much I’ve gained so far. 

Baby P #2 Bump Watch: 19 Weeks Preggers

It’s so hard to keep up with these posts these days! I’m doing my best tho!

19 Weeks


You just have to love my little photo bomber 



What is up with Baby P #2 this week?

  • Baby P #2 is now about the size of an heirloom tomato weighing in at about 8 1/2 ounces and measuring about 6 inches long
  • Her arms and legs are in proportion to each other and the rest of her body
  • Her sensory development is exploding – which means her brain is designating specialized areas for smell, taste, hearing, vision, and touch
  • She may be able to hear my voice now!
  • Baby P #2’s kidneys continue to make urine and the hair on her scalp is sprouting.
  • A waxy protective coating called the vernix caseosa is forming on her skin to prevent it from pickling in the amniotic fluid

What’s been happening with ME this week?

Weight Gained: My next doc appointment that requires a weight check won’t be till June so I won’t know till then.

Workouts: Ha! Not this week yo. I’ve been too tired.

Symptoms: 

  • Exhaustion 
  • Random cravings for soda – something I do not drink regularly. Perhaps it’s because the weather has been a little warmer.
  • Frequent trips to the rest room
  • Already starting to get winded walking up stairs. That’s what happens when you’re outta shape like me!!!
  • More varicose veins 😩… and they’re starting to hurt…

Food Aversions: thank goodness none!

Food Cravings: as mentioned above, I craved soda. And sushi! I might give in one of these days and help myself to a crunch roll or something. Lame. I like the raw stuff so much better!

Sleep: pretty darn good. 

Any Baby/Pregnancy-Related Purchases? Yup! Finally purchased the Bump To Baby combo package from the same photographer I used last time. Been window shopping online for some cute photo worthy matching outfits for Ella and I. 

Stretch Marks: None yet.

Miss Anything?: just having energy!!!

Belly Button In or Out? In. Not sure for how long though!

Wedding Rings On or Off? On

Happy or Moody Most Of The Time? Happy. Most definitely happy for sure.

Any Movement? Lots of it! This baby is an active one.

Looking Forward To? Maternity leave πŸ˜‚. I’m barely halfway thru and I’m already ready to be done. Still got a whole summer to get through… oh Lordy that’s gonna be fun. πŸ˜©πŸ˜‚

 

Baby P #2 Bump Watch: 18 Weeks Preggers

18 Weeks

What is up with Baby P #2 this week?

  • Baby P is about 5 1/2 inches long and weighs almost 7 ounces
  • She’s busy flexing her arms and legs
  • Her blood vessels are visible through her thin skin and her ears are now in their final position
  • A protective covering of myelin is beginning to form around her nerves, a process that will continue for a year after she’s born.
  • Her uterus and Fallopian tubes are formed and in place.



What’s been happening with ME this week?

Weight Gained: I’m guessing I gained a little. My clothes still fit but the belly is definitely growing so I’m sure I’ve gained a little.

Workouts: I’m really bad at this workout thing this time around.

Symptoms:Β 

  • Varicose and spider veins are appearing everywhere! 😩
  • Random spurts of hunger throughout the day
  • Starting to get winded walking up stairs
  • Frequent trips to the bathroom
  • Occasional bouts of round ligament pain especially when I stand up from a sitting position

Food Aversions: none

Food Cravings: soda (eww), hot Cheetos, and sushi

Sleep: still good!

Any Baby/Pregnancy-Related Purchases? No but I’ve totally been looking at some cute clothes online!

Oh! By the end of the weekend, I plan to have booked my maternity and newborn photo sessions.

Stretch Marks: no new ones….yay!

Miss Anything?: sushi. Real sushi.

Belly Button In or Out? It’s still in… but just barely

Wedding Rings On or Off? Still on!

Happy or Moody Most Of The Time? Happy. But moody sometimes. Especially with the hubby. And most times it’s for no reason at all other than the fact that I’M PREGNANT WITH HIS CHILD! Oh and he really thinks I’m super woman because I ‘kicked ass during childbirth’ with our first one. So apparently because I’m a badass, I don’t get to play the pregnant card anymore. Well, that’s how I’m taking it and whatever he says to make me feel better doesn’t make a difference either way. 😜

Any Movement? Yes!!! Especially after I’ve had some coffee πŸ˜‚. And don’t worry, I don’t drink a lot of it or as often than my normal non-pregnant self. Baby’s gonna be a coffee addict like her mom and dad.

Looking Forward To? My 20-week ultrasound scheduled for Wednesday! I get to see Baby again and see how much she’s grown. And to double check and make sure she is indeed a girl 😬.

 

Pink Or Blue? What’s It Gonna Be?Β 

And here we are…. I’m about to reveal to you, my faithful readers who do not yet know what we are having, just what’s been growing inside this belly of mine. Gonna try to keep this post short and sweet since I’ve kept you waiting for so long.

Ok so let me start with the “back story” of this exciting event. Last time I was pregnant, I had to wait till I was 20 weeks gestation to find out the sex of our baby. That’s when they do the 1-hour long anatomical ultrasound.

This pregnancy though, I didn’t have to wait that long. Why? Well because I’m old now.

Say what?

Yeah, it’s because I’m in the “35 and older” age range. I’m considered “high risk” for things like birth defects and/or health issues for baby. And because I’m in this category, I am offered all kinds of extra testing to check if Baby P #2 may be at risk to have any kind of health issues.

One of the tests is called an NIPT blood screen. Totally non-invasive. Just a blood sample from me that goes off to a special lab somewhere. And then experts take a look at it and check to see what kind of chromosomal make up Baby P #2 has.

I went in for this blood screening on Monday, March 20th. I was about 13 weeks along. The results were emailed to me on Friday, March 24th. I was told I may be waiting 10-14 days for the results to come in. Totally didn’t expect it in 4 days. And since we had shipped Ella off to Grandma’s for 2 weeks when this took place, we didn’t plan to have our Gender Reveal dinner till she came back. April 15th was our scheduled dinner.

And can you believe we were able to wait that long without peeking at the email?

Seriously though, we were good. We didn’t even try.

Anyway, my friend that helped me pull off an awesome Reveal last time helped me again this time. And it turned out to be another hit!

Last Reveal, we did balloons with confetti.

This time we did silly string.


Finding these were a pain in the ass. Amazon and major retail stores were selling these for $5 a pop. She eventually found these at a 99 cent store. And they didn’t have a lot in stock. She bought every single one they did have. And then she made the cans look all pretty. Totally grateful everything worked out! Our plan B was to do confetti cannons (in case you were wondering).

Anyway. Saturday April 15th, finally came. Yummy dinner. Great company. An overall success.

 

Team Pink represented.

 

And so did Team Blue.


And as you can see, most of our guests were rooting Team Blue.

But did that make a difference?

Watch and find out!!!